Isn’t he cute?! Little Monkey and I have been two peas in a pod since he was born. He is now four years old and this summer will become a big brother. And I seem to be having some serious guilt over this. Lately at least once a week I have a nightmare that I have lost Little Monkey somewhere. It really shakes me up. I know that somewhere in that I know it isn’t just about losing him which I worried about before this pregnancy, but I am also worried about trying to split my attention between two kids. Can I really balance it? Will Little Monkey feel pushed aside? Right now he is excited about becoming a big brother. He says that his brother is already his best friend, but I know the reality hasn’t set in because a baby is a lot easier in the womb. As much as I want to rush this little guy out, I know that once he is out he will require a lot more of me and my attention than he does now. So many things will change and I’m not ready.
How did you cope with guilty feelings of bringing a sibling home? How did you help your child adjust to a new baby in the house?
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I have no advice, as I’m having the same exact fears right now. But, I’m sure we’ll both figure it out when our newest little boys arrive. And I’m sure our kiddos will make great big brothers!
Thanks Staci. I’m glad to know someone else at least knows how I feel.
Congrats to you! I saw you are having another boy, too! Yeah! Boys rock!
Stopping by from SITS. We adopted a six year-old in September. And brought him home to a house with 13 yo twins who had been co-princesses for 12 years. It was thunder and lightning. It is a weird thing that in the modern world we apologize to children for our adult decisions that will not hurt them and will improve the quality of their lives.
When you are sure you are not playing the “people pleasing” or the “false guilt” game, then just love him. His displeasure will stem from a lack of understanding due to his age. There is no substitute for the passage of time. You are the mom and you do love him, so. Your very concern is the assurance that his needs will not go unmet.
Oh, the guilt! Mine were born so close together that they didn’t really think a whole lot of if! Good luck!
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I had very similar feelings, but everything worked out fine. I just made sure that Aiyana was part of the entire process. My mom brought her to the hospital when it was time to take Chloe home and Aiyana was completely freaked out that we were going to forget Chloe there. She kept saying, “don’t forget Chloe!”. At home, we let her help with making the bottles and gave her big sister jobs to do.
Everything will work out…have a great weekend!
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